But by helping your child anticipate those fears, you can ease the trauma.

“You wouldn’t just drop a child off on the first day of kindergarten with no idea of what’s going to happen. It’s just as important to prepare kids for the experiences they’ll have in a doctor’s office or hospital,” says Ellen Hollon, director of child life at Children’s Medical Center Dallas.

By taking away the unknown, you help a child feel more in control. Here are ways you can help:

• Deal with your own fears and questions first. Talk with your child’s doctor until you’re sure you understand why a treatment is needed.
• Choose a doctor and hospital that specialize in pediatrics. They’ll be better prepared to provide the services and support your child needs.
• Learn how to talk to your child about the procedure or treatment. Many doctors and hospitals offer brochures, coloring books and other aids.
• Let your youngster know it’s OK to be uncomfortable or scared, and to say so.
• Help your child avoid last-minute anxieties by packing a favorite blanket or teddy bear in advance.
• Begin to prepare your child in advance of the procedure or office visit. A good rule of thumb is to talk to your child in advance approximately as many days ahead as he is in years. For example, begin to discuss a procedure with your 4-year-old four days before the surgery.